So many of my clients have received this advice from me over the years… and you will each be comforted to know that patience, waiting, biding my time is definitely a challenge also for me…

My wildly hyper son Pat was my first teacher… I recall dressing him one morning when he was about 2, my mother watching from the doorway with a very strange look on her face… finally I turned to her: “what's up?” Her answer surprised me: “I came to see what was taking so long. If I hadn't seen it with my own eyes, I never would have believed that you had so much patience”… by this time I had probably dressed and dressed Pat again at least 10 times… I'd get one leg into his pants and while I was working on the next, he'd wiggle out of the first… but I had long learned that he really couldn't control the wiggling so the best way to cope with him was to just keep quietly working at it – eventually I'd get him dressed… in time I learned a few tricks, like standing him up and sliding him into his pants both legs at once. Even then, dressing him took a lot of patience… I was very glad when he wanted to dress himself.

But waiting still drives me crazy… whether I'm waiting in line at the bank, or in traffic, or waiting for an idea to gel, or for the tech team to finish their job on the new sites, I rarely am able to wait patiently… for me, waiting patiently is something of a conundrum.

Waiting always seems like such a waste of my time… I can think of so many other things I could be doing… or how the wait is delaying other plans…. If there is nothing to read, I usually try to distract myself with prayers, or working through some problem, or fleshing out a new plan… sometimes I like waiting, it is useful. Being between appointments can be a chance to meditate and clear, to take a walk in an interesting neighbourhood on a beautiful day, or to grab a bite to eat at a neat ethnic restaurant… but most often waiting tries my patience… waiting, under almost any circumstances is very hard on me….

The trouble is that as a spiritual person, I am challenged in my waiting times to see the purpose in these moments… and of course, there is purpose, meaning in the delays… the simplest example I can give happened recently. The traffic was very bad for a good part of my trip to Toronto . Despite leaving early, I knew that I would be late for my first appointment. Time after time, I'd just get moving on the highway when the traffic would stop and I'd be waiting again… to make matters worse, I'd forgotten to charge my cell, so I couldn't call the client to let him know. Instead, I prayed and meditated, kept breathing into my frustration and finally arrived, 20 minutes late… only to find that my first client was himself delayed and my entire schedule had to be reworked to accommodate him... and of course, as usually happens, the changes proved to be to my advantage.

Waiting almost always serves an important purpose and my intuitive sense can usually jump ahead to see that there IS a good reason for the wait…. while my outcome driven emotional self is stamping its feet, chomping at the bit…

I am still learning to trust that moving with the flow of energy around me – even when it is standing still - is easier than resisting, trying to push the river…

Yet patience is a great virtue… possess it if you can… patience sets the stage for things to happen, at the right time, in the right place, to produce the right outcome…

The trouble with waiting is that it tends to focus you on your lack and this lowers your vibrational frequencies, which in turn tends to attract more trouble…. More waiting…

Despite my natural impatience I am learning to wait gracefully – most of the time. I am coming to an appreciation of the spiritual value in waiting, to use my psychic senses to see the purpose and help myself relax while I wait. Here are some suggestions from my experience to help you learn to wait with grace:

Trust that there is a good reason for the wait, and allow the purpose to reveal itself.

Breathe deeply, relax, and keep your focus on what you will do when the wait is over.

Be solutions oriented – the best analogy here is traffic tie-ups… although there are times when there is no way out of the jam but straight ahead, I have often found that the most creative solution is to pull out of the traffic at the first available opportunity to find an alternate side road, or a pleasant café where I can wait it out over a cup of tea. Whether you're waiting in traffic, or for service at the check-out counter – be creative, see if there is another way to get where you want to go –for example, I am not afraid to find the manager and ask for another check-out to be opened.

Plan for your waiting time: bring a book, a game, writing paper and pen to keep you busy… leave early… when I go to Toronto, I try to plan my traveling in off-peak hours, and even then I will leave early and “pad” my schedule to allow for delays between appointments… often than means I arrive early and have time for a walk which always improves my disposition if I have been fighting traffic all day.

Use waiting time productively – prepare for what you will do when the wait is over… While I have been waiting for our new sites to come live, I did a lot of clean up work, started clearing a backlog of correspondence that had accumulated in our files, prepared the announcements for the new site, and started specifying the requirements for the next stage of our site upgrades. I have been know to write letters while waiting for my doctor, to knit myself a sweater while waiting to heal from surgery and I have several needlepoints hanging in my home that were done while waiting for various events in my life to transpire… a good reminder that waiting time can by productive – whether I like it or not.

This article was inspired by waiting… a way of distracting myself from the anxiety as I waited for our tech team to complete the scripts and bring our new sites live. I waited gracefully for the first six weeks… at least this article may help you to appreciate the value in your own waiting times….

Lotsa LLLove, Danielle

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